What a fantastic day!
Need to figure out how to link the youtube video of Deyan and me playing behind the curtain , dancing and playing for close to an hour. Papa took a long nap today and Deyan was NOT having the nap time; how can you turn down a precious little boy who holds his arms out to you begging to be picked up? Especially after he spent 6 years in an orphanage? He has the rest of his life to take a nap; now is the time for snuggles, playing and laughing. And that is exactly what we did for 3 hours together. I walked with him, bouncing him and talking in Bulgarian; well, what Bulgarian I know. I am able to say with confidence “good night” ,“I love you” , “you’re a good boy”, “you’re so handsome”, “it’s okay, it’s alright”, “give me a kiss, please”, “good day”, “good night”, “pee”, “poop”, “sit down”, “good” and “good job”. These words, along with a few more that may be helpful in the near future, are serving me well. I can tell Deyan responds to my Bulgarian. Today we took a cab to church; English Mass right by the British consulate. Deyan was clearly confused and a bit concerned with the cab ride. He makes a throaty noise when he is unhappy, sad, discontented. I tell him in Bulgarian “it’s okay, it’s alright. I love you, I love you.” And give him a kiss and he stops making the sound and snuggles into me a bit. Not a lot at all, but just enough to let me know he hears me and understands he is safe with us. He went into a giggle fit as soon as Mass started so papa took him outside while James and I stayed for Mass.
Mass was interesting, to say the least. Parents just let their children run amuck. Seriously. There were maybe 40 folding chairs in the entire church and practically all the children just ran up and down the aisle like it was nothing. I noticed this the other night at dinner, too. We went to the Christmas market, which was fantastic except it was sponsored by Germany..like the country. No Bulgarian ornaments to be found, but we will keep looking!!! Deyan did much better away from the crowd; enjoyed sitting on a lap or walking holding 2 fingers on a sidewalk behind the market.
For those who don’t know, Deyan can’t walk alone yet; he gets ahead of himself quickly when he’s walking with a finger..he prefers to just hold 1 or 2 fingers with 1 hand and have the other to balance himself but he gets so excited about walking that if he were just let go with just holding those fingers he’d fall on his face…so he needs help regulating his speed, which he doesn’t really care for..lol..fast is his speed.
After a jar of salmon and veggie baby food we got a cab home so he could eat more; we got beer and brats on a bun for lunch which were DELISH. Cabbie tried to pull another fast one on us; I was riding in back with Deyan and James. Deyan was making his throaty noises again so I told him I love him and that it’s okay in Bulgarian and he calmed down again and sat quietly on my lap with his head right on my chest. ( <3 ) Got to the hotel and I took him right inside because he was nearing time for another dose of tylonel, poor baby has a cold. Apparently cabbie didn’t start the meter and told papa it was 10 leva for the2.50 ride it should have been. Dad told him “No” and the guy insisted. So dad took out his phone and told cabbie he was going to call the police after taking a pic of his cabbie license. He took off without any payment at all. :-P
Deyan and I spent about 3 hours together just the 2 of us this afternoon. He wanted to look out the window but seemed to be in sensory overload when he did, along with the hotel room being full of stuff. I pulled the curtain around us to make a cave and that’s where we spent most of our time. We danced, talked, looked at each other, sang and just enjoyed each other. I’m so sad that it could not be my mom here to do this with him; but at least I am the mean lady who took him from everything he knows and mom can be the familiar face (hopefully) that he sees when we finally get back home.
He ate another 2 jars of baby food after getting another dose of tylonel and finally went down for a nap at 5. We skyped with the family for a bit and he woke up around 6. He was not hungry tonight, which I am assuming is the cold. I tried everything and he was able to communicate that he did not want anything I was giving him. Good for communication, bad for nutrition. He got a Triminic cough strip, which he HATED but worked wonders, as well as a melatonin crushed up with some water in a syringe. He takes meds nicely, which is always a bonus.
He played so well with papa tonight. He had a baby toy that you pull down like 5 inches and it vibrates as it goes back up. He gave it to dad and put dad’s hand in the air up high so he would have to reach for it to pull it. Then he turned himself around, leaned back on my dad’s chest and stomach and played and played; laughed and laughed.
He needs mineral oil or prune juice; poor kid has not had a BM in almost 2 days. L Toni said she’d take my dad somewhere to get him something tomorrow.
I sang him the song, “I love you, you love me. We’re a happy family. With a great big hug and a kiss from me to you. Won’t you say you love me, too.” And he seemed to try to clap my hands to the beat at times. I sang for close to 20 mins while dad and James were out getting KFC for dinner; which was surprisingly good.
When he gets tired Deyan gets giggly or throws toys wanting you to give them back so he can keep throwing. I tried to teach him to throw to me so he could get them back but that will take time. Slowly but surely. After about 50 mins of him tossing toys and drinking about 4 oz of water from a cup he finally went to bed, close to 9:40 I think. He wanted to hold his cup, so I gave the lightest amount of pressure possible while keeping control of the cup. He drank pretty well; better than from a sippy cup. He knew to wipe his mouth with the wash cloth but threw it after he was done. Gotta work on that, too.
Down side; the Bengals blew their amazing game against the Texans. We were able to get a live video stream of the game. It got iffy towards the end so we switched to audio only. We are a freshman team; brand new players. I will give them the grace of this year to allow time to get to know each other. We are going to KILL it next year! Papa sent mom the link so Matt was able to watch the game online, too. It didn’t sell out so it was blacked out. That is the stupidest rule of the NFL. EVER.
Joey learned how to Skype today! I tried to call mom while dad and James were out getting dinner. Joey figured out how to answer, without video but that’s okay. He was able to tell me that Emily and Jake were sleeping and that mom was at the store. Matt confirmed this information. Then Joey was able to relay to mom that I called; without me asking him to! I was typing this blog message when I got a call from “Mary Stolz” on my dad’s skpe. Keep in mind, his skype is under Marty Thompson, I believe. So I answer the call thinking it’s my mom. Nope. It’s Joey! He figured out how to call, without video. He asked for “his James.” When I told him James was asleep he said, “Okay, good night!” and walked away! I had texted my mom to let her know so she came in with Jake and we were able to say hi. The poor baby, Jake is having such a hard time with this whole situation. I can’t wait to get back home and spend some time with him; he’s going to need it!
Well, papa and James are off to get Christopher Martin tomorrow so it’s just Deyan and me for a few hours! Passport office closes at 1pm tomorrow so we all have to be there before then! Wish me luck with the cabbie; let’s hope I don’t have to threaten to call the police; though I will if I need to.
=We are so much closer to getting our whole family together; I can’t wait! What a wonderful Christmas gift!!! I will send videos and pics to my mom for her to upload! Be patient though, she’s practically all alone with all the kids which is very hard; I know!
I miss you all and love you!